There is no right or wrong time to start trying again. Some people try immediately and others wait years. My doctor told me to try whenever I was ready. She advised me to wait one cycle. I was surprised by this, however, she told me many stories of her own patients who conceived just 3-4 weeks after giving birth. When your body is ready, it's ready. As long as you are cleared by your medical professional to try again, the only thing you need to ask yourself is, " Am I mentally and emotionally ready to do this again?".
For myself, I struggled with this question. I instinctively wanted to try right away. It took us two years to conceive Shepard after my first miscarriage. I couldn't imagine having to wait another two years for my rainbow baby. But I also couldn't get through one day without crying for my baby. The loss was still so fresh. So naturally, I went to the internet in hopes I would find someone who had the answer for me. No luck. It wasn't that easy. I quickly realized no one could make this decision for me. I was on my own, with my husband of course.
In my search, I did find countless of blogs dedicated to the journeys of living life after grief and loss of a child. It is in these blogs I found stories of courage, love, passion, fear and hope for the future. After reading a handful of these stories, over several weeks, I began to realize that this could be me. I could be writing one of these stories someday.... hence the creation of this blog :) After meditating many hours on this subject and talking it over with Estil, we decided after our first cycle we would try again.
For those of you who are grieving the loss of a pregnancy or infant and are searching for stories of hope. I have found a ton. It doesn't take away the pain, but for me, it did give me an opportunity to think about what the future might hold. And that my friends, is what they call healing.
- Pregnancy After Loss Support
- Stillborn and Still Breathing
- Carly Marie Project Heal
- Faces of Loss
- For the Love of Baby Liam
- Glow in the Woods
As I come across more references that I find helpful I will continue to post them.